On the way back to Hamburg, Gollar, now Sasson’s ﬁancée, went with her mother to Israel to meet Sasson’s family. They are related, of course, but now they met Gollar as their newly-engaged future daughter-in-law, which made them extremely happy and joyous. Sasson’s mother was so happy that she did not know right from left. She kissed Gollar again and again, went to a jewelry shop and bought her a nice bracelet, which Gollar still keeps and cherishes, as she knows what an effort the family had to make in order to buy her this present, because they were hard-working immigrants at that time.
In the meantime, the disappointed families spread rumors about Gollar in Tehran, that soon reach Israel, too: having grown up in a liberal European environment, they said, necessarily means she’s been with boys before. And so Margrit insisted on taking her to a doctor to prove them wrong. Nanne said such a proof is not necessary: “You can see by her eyes and behavior that she’s untouched.” But when Margrit decided to do something, nothing could divert her from her goal. She took Gollar to a doctor, who of course found out this 14-year-old has been a good girl. “See? I told you!” said Nanne.
That was the only time Nanne and Gollar met. Nanne passed away soon after.
When Gollar met her husband’s family, she found Sasson’s brother, Nissan, a likable, suitable groom for her sister Louise. Both Nissan and Louise were too young, and the family had another man in mind for Louise, but Gollar had already made up her mind about this match, and did everything to make it happen. Louise was introduced to a man who was much older than her, as a possible match. Her parents liked the idea because he was from a good Iranian Jewish family. They started going out in order to get to know each other, until one day Youssef ’s secretary came to him crying and said: “I hear your daughter is going out with this man, you should be very careful not to let them get too close. He’s a gambler, he’s not a serious person, and just likes to enjoy life.” Youssef immediately called this friendship off, and Gollar’s way to matching Louise and Nissan was open.
In the meantime, Sasson’s uncle and brother-in-law took him to a doctor’s clinic for a fertility test, to make sure he can have children. Poor Sasson had no idea where they’re taking him, and what he’s supposed to do. Everyone just assumed he knew, but he was so naïve and clueless, he had no idea! They gave him a bottle, told him to go to a small room and “do what he needs to do.” But what was it that he needed to do?
After what seemed like an eternity, Sasson almost fainted in the closed room with hardly any air left to breathe. The doctor ﬁnally had mercy and let him out. They reassured him that these things happen, but it took him years to ﬁgure out what things they were talking about!