In elementary school, the difference between Gollar and the other students could hardly be felt. However, between the ages of 12 and 15 she was surrounded by a completely liberal society, where girls and boys interacted freely, an odd new concept for her conservative family. Like all their relatives and close friends, they still adhered to Iranian culture, and completely disapproved of these European liberties. Her family’s conservatism was in complete contrast with the European lifestyle.
Surrounded by European liberalism, Margrit and Youssef always feared assimilation, and worried that, God forbid, they would lose their daughters in this new environment. In Hamburg, where they now lived, the people their children met on a daily basis — mostly their classmates and neighbors — were all German. They both feared that their children’s relationships with Germans might go to delicate places, and that they may even want to marry gentiles, which was completely and utterly despicable, unthinkable and unacceptable!
With these worries in mind, Margrit decided to take her eldest daughter, Gollar, to Iran, to ﬁnd a suitable groom for her, from the family or among other members of the Jewish community. Marrying her off would relieve their worries. So when Gollar came of age, that is, when she turned 14, during the summer vacation from school, Margrit took her hand and they headed to Tehran — right when Sasson left Tabriz and headed to Tehran, on his way to immigrate to Israel and reunite with his parents and siblings.
Sasson: There were many young men in the family who would have been proud and glad to marry Gollar, the beautiful daughter of the renowned businessman Youssef Khakshouri. Margrit had me in mind, because she knew me as a child in Tehran. She asked around, and found out through common acquaintances that I had just arrived in Tehran! Gollar’s grandmother, Youssef ’s mother, Tavus, lived with Nathan and Victoria at the time. She invited my sisters to Nathan’s for a cup of tea, and asked them to bring me, their brother, too.
Gollar: The moment Sasson arrived with his sisters to Nathan’s, Tavus said to me: “Go and open the door!”
Sasson: Gollar opened the door, but I was so shy I couldn’t even lift my eyes to look at her. But the moment I dared look at her, I fell head over heels in love with her at ﬁrst sight, and was practically paralyzed with excitement!