Like every myth and fairytale, this story also has more than one version, here is the one told by Gollar and Parviz:
Gollar: I was 14 and lived in Hamburg. All my friends in high school had boyfriends and used to exchange stories with each other. My father was very strict, of course, and would not allow any of his daughters to have a boyfriend. My high school friends teased me and said I don’t have a boyfriend because I’m ugly.
Sasson: O would that all women in the world were this ugly!
Gollar: Finally, I went with my mother and my brother Parviz to Tehran to ﬁnd a nice Jewish ﬁancé, a custom quite common in the Jewish Iranian community of Hamburg at the time, and very similar to our forefathers in the Bible. Choosing your own groom is a very new custom…
When we arrived in Tehran, there were 100 people in the airport — the entire close family. I didn’t remember any of them anymore, so many years had passed! Then we went to my uncle Nathan’s home. He had prepared a big party, but I was not used to parties, so I went to the upper ﬂoor with my book and started reading.
My cousin Elizabeth came up to get me and said: “My dad has prepared such a nice party for you, your mom and Parviz, come down and dance!” I said: “I’ve never danced, I don’t know how to do it!” And started telling her about my book. I was crazy about history, so I was telling her about Napoleon. She said: “Let this shitty Napoleon be Napoleon, he will not run away from you, but the party will. Come downstairs!”
Since then, every time we meet — and we meet at least once a year — this is the usual joke between us: “How’s Napoleon doing?”
After the party, we stayed in Tehran, and I had at least ten suitors who wanted to get engaged to me.
Sasson: But God made me win her!
With the help of her brother Parviz, who screened the suitors along with their uncle Nathan. But when we say God was involved, we mean it! This is what Parviz tells us:
I was sitting with my uncle Nathan in the yard of the house, interviewing suitors for my sister. While we were discussing the pros and cons of each one, the door opened and there stood Sasson. The sun was right behind him and it looked as if he had a divine aura about him. We immediately knew he is the one.
Gollar: I myself was not allowed to talk to my suitors directly or open the door when one of them was ringing.
One day, when the doorbell rang, my uncle said, “Gollar, you go open the door.” I was very surprised that I’m not only allowed but actually asked to open the door! And when I did, there stood Sasson. I liked him very much from the very beginning. I asked my mother, uncle and brother what they thought about Sasson, and they were very positive. I was 14 and didn’t know much, but I was very glad that this was the chosen one for me.