Although German law sets a higher marriage age, Iranians could get permission from their embassy to get married at 16. When Gollar was almost 16, they ﬁnally got the desired permit, and in March 1964, Gollar’s parents Agha Youssef and Khanom Margrit arranged for the wedding ceremony at the Hamburg synagogue. The wedding was held in the synagogue in the presence of all 200 members of the Jewish community of Hamburg — Iranian and non-Iranian alike.
Sasson: On the night of our wedding, an inexperienced yours-truly came to pick up Gollar, and we set off to our synagogue. Suddenly, we realized that all the other cars on the road were heading in the opposite direction, signaling to us with their high beams, and honking their horns!
We soon realized I was driving in the wrong direction, risking not only our lives but those of all the other drivers! Thank God Almighty, the cars stopped coming for a few minutes, just enough time for us to make a U turn in the middle of the street, and go in the right direction. I can’t imagine the consequences if we had caused an accident!
During the ceremony I felt a mixed feeling of joy — uniting at last with the love of my life, and sorrow — that my mother didn’t live to see it, and that the other members of my nuclear family, my father and siblings, couldn’t take part in our happy moment because of the mourning year. And through my own tears of joy and sadness, I saw tears in the eyes some of our relatives and guests who knew my mother.