Sasson: One of the things that impressed me as a newcomer to Hamburg was how the Jewish parents guarded their daughters lest they become too close with gentiles. They wanted to marry them off as soon as possible, and it was very important for all the parents that the children would marry Jews, preferably Iranian ones.
Therefore, it struck me as odd when I attended community events, mostly in the synagogue, where there was dancing but none of the guys asked any of the girls to dance with them! It was the only opportunity for girls to dance, because they were not allowed to go to discos and clubs, but the poor girls ended up dancing with their fathers!
I once asked my friend Nejat Hakakian, “How come you’re just looking, and not inviting any of the girls to dance?”
He replied: “Are you crazy? I can go out with gentile girls as much as I like, do whatever I like, and she doesn’t even ask my name. Here, I just have to ask a girl to dance, and it’s a matter of minutes before the whole community comes to say mazal tov!”